And the first child of the family was born, and she was a daughter, and right there ppl saw a future bride.
The girl turned out to be bright in studies, and they saw her matrimonial profile upgrading. She did well in life , got a job and they decided it was time for her to get married.
They told her too cook, clean and learn the chores of the house, and she said she din like it, and they told her you won't be a good wife. She had dreams and aspirations, and they said you can do everything as per your husband.
She wore shorts and skirts and her parents got worried that she will never get a guy, because good girls don't wear such clothes. While boys of her age could wear low waist jeans, showing off their undergarments, she wasn't allowed to wear sleeveless, because "good girls" don't wear them.
She fell in love, and even her guy joked, learn cooking and my mum will be impressed, and she started to ponder what had the guy done extra in his life that he did not have to cook, or do chores he did not enjoy.
While guys got drunk, and it gave them the status of becoming "men", even a single peg down her throat attracted judgments.
She wondered when were ppl going to look at her and think about her and not her future husband and what kind of a wife she is going to be. When would someone actually be bothered about what exactly does she want from her life, and what does she enjoy.
Now she had a good job, and seemed like she could brag a good guy on the website, and then ppl started bothering her parents with the amount of dowry that they would be giving for her, and she felt like an object.
What had the guy done to earn that dowry,to earn the right to live the way he wanted to, to earn the right for that extra drink, to earn the right of a bed tea , to earn the right to come home from office and rest, while the girl worked hard making a meal for the family?!
Had her parents not spent the same for bringing her up, for her education ?!? Had she not worked equally hard for those degrees and for the job ?!!
Then what is it about us that does not give us the right to live , dress , and dream freely ?!! When will a baby girl be looked at like another child to the world, and not another bride-to-be ?!!
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